Does your partner:

• ignore your feelings?
  
• disrespect you?
  
• ridicule your beliefs?
  
• withhold approval, appreciation or affection?
  
• give you the silent treatment?
  
• walk away without answering you?
  
• tell you you are too sensitive?
  
• hurt you especially when you are down?
  
• "twist" your words, somehow turning what you said against you?
  
• complain about how badly you treat him or her?
  
• say things that make you feel good, but do things that make you feel bad?
  
• seem to stir up trouble just when you seem to be getting closer to each other?
  
• harass you about imagined affairs?
  
• manipulate you with lies and contradictions?
  
• act immature and selfish, yet accuse you of those behaviors?
  
• make you feel like you can't win? damned if you do, damned if you don't?
  
• incite you to rage, which is "proof" that you are to blame?
  
• try to convince you he or she is "right," while you are "wrong?"
  
• frequently say things that are later denied or accuse you of misunderstanding?
  
• treat you like a sex object, or as though sex should be provided on demand regardless of how you feel?
  

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